The old saying “men are from Mars and women are from Venus” can seem like an understatement at times when it comes to figuring out what the opposite sex wants! Men and women may as well be speaking different languages and until some sort of Rosetta Stone of love is invented, a big part of finding a partner is making it up as you go along.

This might sound a bit overwhelming, but the good news is that even though everyone is different, there are some universal constants that women like in a man.

The list of things women want in a man can seem like an endless one that is impossible to achieve but we have broken it down to the 5 most important qualities. By the end of this list it will be clear that when it comes to attracting someone else, it’s not as complicated as you might have thought!

1) Confidence Is Sexy

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The number one trait that women look for in a man is confidence and it regularly tops lists of what people of all genders look for in a partner. Confidence makes someone irresistible. Being self-assured and comfortable in your own skin draws people in and makes them want to know you better. That seemingly effortless sense of ease in being themselves and not worrying too much about what other people think is incredibly attractive.

Many people either are not confident or they wish that they were more confident than they currently are. The magic about confidence is that you can “fake it until you make it”! Even if you don't feel it, just acting like someone with confidence and not letting your insecurities control your actions can actually help you feel more assured in yourself. And the best part is, other people will not know that you are faking it - all they will see is someone who seems confident!

2) Make Her Laugh

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A good sense of humour comes in at a close second on the list of things women like in a man. Being able to make someone laugh shows that you are easy-going and can just go with the flow. You don't take yourself too seriously and enjoy spreading positivity. It also shows that you are someone who is socially malleable and will most likely be able to get along with a lot of different people. In addition to this, a good sense of humour shows you have a sharp mind and can think quickly and outside of the box.

If you can pinpoint what makes someone laugh, connecting on an emotional level is much easier as they will be relaxed and not be as guarded with their emotions.

There are also the physiological effects of laughter to consider. When someone laughs, endorphins are released and a sort of euphoric state is triggered. So if you can make someone laugh they can't help but be happy around you!

3) Communication - Because Nobody Can Read Minds

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There is a stereotype about women that they talk about their emotions too much - and also a stereotype that men don’t talk about them enough! One of the things women want men to do is be more open and communicative.

Nobody is able to read minds so if you don't say how you are feeling, how will the other person know? This applies to whether you are feeling good things like love and excitement, and also more difficult things like if you are upset or annoyed.

Learning how to effectively communicate what is going on internally will allow your partner to know whether they need to adjust their actions based on what you tell them. If you are someone who takes longer to process things before voicing them, this needs to be communicated as well. Just giving someone the silent treatment because you are not ready to speak about it is a recipe for disaster! Don’t be afraid to speak your mind.

4) R-E-S-P-E-C-T

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As sung by the legendary Aretha Franklin, respect is one of the cornerstones of a happy and healthy relationship. Showing respect for someone covers almost every aspect of social interaction. It is essential to how we communicate, to show a willingness to understand each other and make a conscious effort to not hurt the other person.

In an increasingly misogynistic world, it seems that respect for women is becoming rarer and rarer and when a man is able to show genuine respect for a woman, it makes a huge impact. When it comes to the question of how to be a gentleman, merely showing respect is one of the bare minimum requirements.

5) Words Vs Actions

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The final quality that women look for in a man is being true to your word. It is all well and good telling someone how much they mean to you and making grand promises, but if you cannot follow through with them it shows your words mean nothing. If you want to treat her right, it needs to extend to more than just words of adoration. Using your actions to show what someone means to you indicates that you are someone of substance and that when you say you are going to do something, you will keep your word.

We mentioned at the start that these qualities are universal constants that women like in a man and it is clear that these qualities are also things that men look for in women.

The things women want in a partner are essentially the same as what men want in a partner - we have all just been conditioned to believe that women and men are from different planets! In actual fact, all you need to do is treat someone the way you would like to be treated and you will see that men and women actually speak the same language!